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Pornography Myths and the Truth You Need to Know

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So pornography has been in the news a lot lately, right? What’s the deal with porn? I truly feel that most people do not fully understand the devastating affects of porn use, and that is why we, even as Christians treat porn use with a slap on the wrist, and an “everybody makes mistakes” attitude. Pornography is much more dangerous than most people think or really even care to learn about. However, in order to address this issue effectively, we HAVE TO understand just how it works to destroy.

Now, I could talk from here to Timbuktu about what the Bible says about porn. How in Matthew 5:28, Jesus says, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” How in Proverbs 7, it describes the “strange woman” and tells us that she will cost you your life, and that her way is the way of death. God tells us over and over that all sexual sins are forbidden and that we sin against our own bodies when we commit these sins. They are dangerous and destructive, and, yet, for some reason we choose not to believe him. Whether in acting on these sins, or in addressing them….. we simply do not believe God when it comes to this area.

I’m going to address several myths about pornography. If you don’t want to know, you should skip this article, but know that you won’t be held any less accountable for not knowing when the information is readily available to you. You won’t be able to say “no one ever told me.” Because I’m telling you right now. This post may make you uncomfortable, but these are the problems our generation and the next are facing… like it or not.

1. MYTH: The problem with porn is just looking…

The problems associated with pornography are not simply related to looking at naked women or wanting to watch people have sex. The purpose of pornography and what it does to the body are related. Pornography is NOT sex; however it triggers all the hormones associated with sex thus leading to masturbation. The purpose of pornography is to masturbate. This may come as a shock to some of you. I have had women tell me, “I never knew that is what he was doing.” This is why I am telling you. It is not just “looking with lust.” It is responding to those lusts and acting on them in a way your body and brain were never meant to function, sexually gratifying yourself outside of marriage, outside of your spouse, and outside of God’s plan for sex.

2. MYTH: Pornography is sin, but not that harmful…

Masturbation as a result of internet porn has devastating results especially on adolescents exposed to it. In the pre-teen and teenage years, if one is exposed to pornography, they are being sexual conditioned. This means they are learning “how it’s done” from internet pornography rather than real sexual experiences, and it can be forever harmful.

The crucial detail to remember is: “Nerve cells that fire together wire together.” This is true for everyone. For an adolescent brain, this means connecting sexual reward to the environment. Early sexual conditioning remains even when circumstances change, like marriage, and have the opportunity to wire in all sorts of fetishes that would normally seem aversive. This creates profound consequences for the body, especially the brain, and, in many ways, acts like a drug.

Dopamine is the most common chemical associated with pleasure. It plays a major role in reward-motivated behavior. However, I want to introduce to you another chemical called DeltaFosB. DeltaFosB is a transcription factor, a protein that binds your genes and turns them on or off. It is the master switch for addiction. Dopamine is what barks orders saying, “We like this! Connect these experiences!” And DeltaFosB does the work. This is the stuff that in a normal sexual relationship, such as marriage would bond you and your partner together, and form those deeply entrenched pathways in the brain. DeltaFosB sticks around for a very long time, altering your genes responses and bringing on measurable, physical brain changes. Once it is turned on, it stays on, and is not turned off easily. That is why long after the dopamine surge vanishes, the roads and pathways remain just as they left them.  These pathways are why early sexual experiences can have such a powerful impact and lasting affect. This process occurs with ALL addictions. Chronic overconsumption to alcohol or drugs create the exact same pathways. Dopamine surges –> DeltaFosB accumulates–> brain rewires to want it and do it again the same exact way. Remember and repeat. It leads you to not only desire it, but require it.

A study done in 2013 stated this, “Natural and drug rewards not only converge on the same neural pathway, they converge on the same molecular mediators and like in the same neurons (nerve cells)…to influence the…wanting of both types of rewards.” Kind of confusing but this is saying that addictions to drugs and addictions to porn/sex are formed in the same exact way in the brain with DeltaFosB driving the bus and creating these pathways. The more these pathways are traveled, the easier they become to travel again, like creating deep ruts in the sand. These pathways become memories, skills, habits, even methods of coping. You are more like to use an established path even when you don’t want to simply because it is the least resistant.

These pathways of overstimulation can lead to the destruction of the body leaving the user unable to have normal sexual experiences inside their marriage or simply unable to perform sexually at all. Think about it, this is why we have had a surge in ED diagnosis and medications in the past 15 years.

3. MYTH: I am not addicted.

At what point does one become addicted to pornography? Well, scientifically speaking, whenever the amount of stimulation causes the accumulation of DeltaFosB and other addiction-related brain changes.

How will you know? In short, you won’t. Especially if you were sexually conditioned to pornography at a young age.

Adolescent or teen brains are more sensitive to dopamine and produce more dopamine and higher levels of DeltaFosB than do adult brains. As a result, as a teenager, one is far more vulnerable to addictions. Older men can sometimes feel when they slip into addiction because they know what normal was before internet porn arrived. Their brains have generally been conditioned in the correct ways, and pathways have been formed. How does a 23 year old who has been watching porn since age 12 know when he is crossing the line into compulsive use? He doesn’t; because porn is his “normal.”

4. MYTH: Porn is not a widespread problem, and it can not touch me or my family…

Well, I shouldn’t have to tell you in light of recent events that porn is ravaging our country and destroying our lives. How do you think that all these men including pastors and Christian leaders ended up on Ashley Madison? I will tell you right now it started with porn. Like any addiction, porn is subject to the law of diminishing returns, meaning that each time you want the same high levels of dopamine release, you need something more shocking than the last time. And with the rise of internet pornography, it is at our fingertips. You can click, click, click away keeping dopamine levels high for hours on end creating an endless supply of DeltaFosB to create lasting brain pathways firing and wiring together. This is why many adulterers, rapists, and serial killers all started with pornography. Think it can’t happen to you? Think again.

As a wife, as a mother, as a sister, it is our responsibility to do everything we can to protect and help the men in our lives to stay pure. The world shoves temptation in their face every chance it gets, and satan would love to destroy the lives of Christian men more than anything else. We need to keep one another accountable, keep computers in the open where everyone can see what’s going on. We need filters and blocks on our smart phones. We need to know how to check history and cookies on computers and browsers as a level of accountability. There are lots of ways to do this. Safe eyes filter is a good place to start. The iPhone even has restrictions (Settings>general>restrictions>enable restrictions) you can set already built in that asks for a password when the user attempts to access restricted items or applications.

Many people, especially older generations, do not understand the difficulty in dating and finding someone who isn’t addicted hasn’t been addicted to pornography in the past. It is not impossible to find, but very very rare. We have got to educate our young people in this area so that they will know the dangers enough to STAY AWAY from such a harmful lifestyle. Many of our children wouldn’t dream of doing drugs or drinking alcohol, but dabble in pornography and end up addicted because no one is telling them how dangerous it is. We have to stop it this trend. We have to be informed, and inform others.

5. MYTH: My pornography problem only hurts me…

This is one of the biggest lies of Satan in this area. Think of all the devastation that porn has caused in the last few weeks. If you think all those men were just looking to cheat with real women and not watching porn, you’re kidding yourself. I personally have been the victim of pornography use in past relationships. I know first hand how it feels to be betrayed in this area. It destroys you, and you have to rebuild. (You can read my story in my article Pornography is not ok: what you don’t know can hurt you) I have witnessed marriages fall apart, women reduced to empty shells of what they once were because the men in their life have so taken what was sacred and precious to them and burned it in the fires of their own lust and selfishness. Families have fallen apart. Children have lost daddies and mommies to it. Hundreds of men are stepping down from their ministry positions, their jobs, and their lives are in turmoil all because of the sin and addiction of pornography all because they did not heed the warning in Proverbs when God said, “it will cost you your life.”

Readers, this is why in my last article, I said that I would leave my husband if he began watching pornography. Not because I would hate him, not because I want to throw my marriage away, but because the punishment needs to fit the crime. Pornography will destroy anyone who uses it, and I love my husband too much to sit aside and allow it to happen to him or us or my family. He would need a wake up call in this area like no other to realize just how serious of a sin this is. The purpose of leaving would be for him to realize that he truly would lose everything that is precious to him if he continues down this path. I could stay and allow that to happen, and go down that path with him, or I could take a stand and say, “No, this is me protecting you and protecting our marriage, and making you get help with this terrible terrible sin.” Not out of hate, not out of an attitude of quitting or giving up or throwing him away, but with an attitude of love and protection, and in an attempt to save my marriage from future harm.

6. MYTH: Once you are addicted, there is no hope for you…

Some research suggests that, in some, DeltaFosB takes 6-8 weeks free of porn/masturbation to decline, while others suggest it may stick around for up to 9 months, depending on the level of addiction, and prior sexual conditioning. There is still much to learn. Fortunately for us, our brain works with a “use it or lose it” system. Meaning, nerves that are used with flourish and grow stronger, and in return, nerves that are not used will wither and fade. Will your brain always crave it? To some degree, yes. Even long after alcoholics are sober, these brain pathways still cause cravings and are the number one reason behind relapses.

Of course, nothing is impossible with God. No one is too far gone for the grace of God to fill their life and help them to overcome addiction. God can heal, but consequences still remain. The pathways are there and you will have to fight the rest of your life to stay pure, but in Jesus Christ, we have the power to do battle with the enemy and win.

Having said all this, I want to reinforce that this is an actual scientific addiction. Depending on their level of addiction, porn addicts can NOT simply be told to work on their relationship with God and all will be fine. This may work for someone who has simply stumbled upon it and became curious once or twice, but NOT for compulsive users. There are many many Christian and secular rehabilitation venues where people can go to get serious treatment and help in this area.

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Men and women, we need to be informed. We have to understand and warn our loved ones of the dangers and devastation effects of pornography. It is much more serious issue than many people realize. We need to understand that we need to treat porn addiction as an addiction, and do everything we can to keep it out of our lives. That means being loud about things that are uncomfortable for us. That means loving one another enough to keep accountable those that are closest to us for the sake of their lives, our families, our churches, and our society. Let us vow to be the ones who take an educated stand against porn out of hearts of love.

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Josh Duggar and why I would leave him

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Yes, I’m joining the bandwagon. I’m going to write about Josh Duggar. I’m not doing it just to write about something relevant and grab views and capitalize on this family’s pain, but I’m doing it because I feel that it needs to be said.

I’ve written a lot about dating since I started this blog when I was single. I talked about how you should not put up with bad treatment. You get what you tolerate when it comes to dating. You teach people how to treat you based on how you treat yourself and what you allow into your life and relationships. I would get these emails from girls who would say how badly they were being treated by their boyfriends, and I would just want to say, “hello? Dump him!”

Well, now that I’m married, I’m here to tell you that nothing has changed. Do I love my husband? yes. Do I want to spend forever with this man? yes. Do I think he would ever be unfaithful to me? I have no reason to think that. That is why I married him.

However, plain and simple, I will get the behavior that I tolerate. If my husband were to come home late and drunk one night, and I did nothing about it, I could expect to receive that sort of behavior again. Would it be my fault? Well, no, he is the one who would be making those decisions, but I would be the one allowing it.

Now, I don’t know what kind of woman Anna Duggar is. I don’t know the dynamic in their relationship. I pray that she is smart enough to allow the consequences of Josh’s actions fall on him and not her precious family any more than they already have. I can only say what I would do if I were in her shoes.

If I were to catch my husband watching pornography, I would get in my car and I would go to my parent’s house, and I wouldn’t return until he was truly repentant and I was sure that it wouldn’t happen again. I recently told someone whose husband was involved in porn that the next time it happened, she would have a place at my house to stay. If my husband was found on Ashley Madison looking for women to cheat on me with? I would leave him. Plain and simple.

If you stay, he will not change. You were there and he did it anyway. So many counselors say this. When it comes to these kinds of sexual addictions, you need accountability and consequences.  I’m not saying divorce. I’m not saying I would up and get a lawyer the same day. Is there a chance that reconciliation is possible? Of course, always. I’ve witnessed it. It would take lots of biblical counseling, accountability from family and friends, and forgiveness, and healing and I commend those who can rebuild a healthy biblical marriage after an affair. I don’t know that I could do it.

You say, “What about love? What about forgiveness? and godliness?”

What about it? An affair has nothing to do with love. Pornography has nothing to do with love. Those things reveal nothing but selfishness. It has absolutely no connection with concern for someone else, maybe mulitple people-those you are supposed to love the MOST- that you are hurting, betraying, and destroying.

I am worth more than to be treated like a doormat. I am a strong, capable, loving, giving, daughter of the king, and my heavenly father has more plans for me than to stay with a man who is publicly humiliating me time and time again. Girls, find men who know where you stand on this subject. Women, stand up for yourselves. Don’t put up with sexually perverted attacks on your marriage. Just don’t. All good marriages need godly boundaries set and made known, and accountability when people fail. There are many other options than sucking it up and blaming yourself and trying to move on without counsel or healing or any real steps to prevent this from happening again.

We don’t know the whole story, and last I heard, Josh is receiving counseling and treatment. I hope for his sake, he recovers and can move forward in purity. I pray that God gives Anna strength for herself and her children for the coming years. She will need it.

Some people are probably not going to like this post, but that’s fine. Someone needs to hear this. You are not unspiritual or destroying the sanctity of marriage by standing up for yourself and your children. You have a right to ask for absolute faithfulness in your marriage. God commands it. You don’t have to tolerate less. That’s the truth.

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Faith Radio Interview with Lauren DeMoss on Strong women of God

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Last year, I had an interview with a radio program called, “On the Road” with Ryan Thomas. Just a couple weeks ago, I had another opportunity to speak with Ryan, and I wanted to share it with y’all as well! {Ya, i said y’all. I’m in Alabama now so I basically have to ;}

Anyways, head over to Faith radio and check it out. We discussed a little of my life lately, and my recent blog post “7 Characteristics of Strong Women of God.”

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And if you liked it, leave a comment on their page! Thanks for listening!!

You can also check out last year’s interview HERE! :]

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Marriage; It’s Not What You May Think

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What if marriage is not all about love, companionship, and sex, but was designed as something much grander? Marriage is often portrayed as less than it truly is. Like the three blind men striving to describe an elephant by touch—one describing it by the legs, another by its trunk, and the third by its tail—we also often describe marriage by its parts, not as the whole. The Scriptures teach that love, companionship, and procreation were not the purposes of marriage, but only parts. This Scriptural truth is often overlooked and, as a result, has created great confusion about marriage.

THE BURDEN OF LONELINESS

In 2012 author Justin Lee published his book Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gay vs. Christian Debate. He is a remarkable communicator and his book was masterfully written. I love that Justin faces the tough issues head-on and seeks to provide solid responses to the debate at hand. In his book he concludes that God may allow committed, Christ-centered same-sex relationships. After reading his rationale and seeing the Scriptures he uses, I still could not come to the same conclusion. Even after talking with him over coffee, something still did not sit right with me. And only one thought stood in the way: God’s one purpose for marriage.

In chapter 7, Justin frames the discussion around love and marriage. He paints an agonizing portrait of the burden of loneliness. He then paints a contrasting portrait of the deep bonds of marriage with its beautiful fruit of companionship, love, affirmation, support, and—of course—wholesome sex. Neither portrait is wrong; they are both notably accurate for many.

He then takes the reader on a journey through his own struggle with loneliness. The journey is a powerful glimpse into the struggle of many, and a glimpse which married Christians must grasp for the sake of the unmarried Christians who struggle. Justin outlines his inborn desire for intimacy, companionship and love, followed by the internal turmoil from knowing God’s traditional outline for marriage and its possible implications for his life. At the end of the chapter, Justin wisely says:

After agonizing over the decision I knew I had to make, I finally reached the inescapable conclusion: I had to follow God, whatever that might mean.

What a wonderful statement. So let us look to God’s Word. Despite Justin’s compelling work, God’s one purpose for marriage is the only thing that kept me from accepting the conclusion of Justin’s book. The Bible gives one purpose—and only one—for the institution of marriage.

It’s Not What You May Think

1. Marriage Is Not for Procreation

Many people accurately point out that having children is not the purpose of marriage, although children may be a wonderful result. Even when young couples are told they may never have children, they often still choose to marry.

Physically speaking, marriage is not even necessary for procreation. God did tell Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, but any male and female have the potential to procreate with or without marriage. God did not need to create marriage for the purpose of procreation. In fact, God’s purpose is much bigger than this.

2. Marriage Is Not for Love

Love is the most popular idea for the purpose of marriage, but it comes at a high moral price. All the way up to the Supreme Court of the United States of America, this idea prevails. Justice Anthony Kennedy explained his view of the purpose of marriage in the final paragraph of his opinion (page 28):

No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family…marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death… Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions….

While love is a vital component, it is not the purpose of marriage. If love is all that matters, why deny any person the opportunity to marry anyone (or anything) they love? Logically speaking, if marriage is simply for love, then we can place no legal restriction to age, gender, quantity, or species. Go marry that teen. Marry both of those women. Marry that dog.
#LoveWins, right?

Our culture rightly views those ideas as wrong or sick right now: who can fathom a man marrying a child, a man with ten wives, or a woman marrying her dog? But set aside your disgust and anger long enough to explain what can logically hinder these ideas if love is truly all that matters? One must simply adjust our society’s tolerance and they soon become acceptable: just like same sex marriage.

You should love the one you marry; but love is not God’s purpose for marriage.

3. Marriage Is Not for Companionship

Although marriage often offers companionship for the lonely soul, marriage is not the cure for loneliness. Simply Google “loneliness in marriage” to find how widespread loneliness is even for married couples. Companionship is a probable byproduct of marriage, but not its purpose.

Think about it: In the past, Adam communed with God Almighty in the garden. Is a mortal woman a greater companion than God Himself? In the future, mankind will neither marry nor be given in marriage (Matthew 22:30). Does man suddenly lose his need for companionship? Or will Jesus’ physical presence among us satisfy that need more fully than a spouse?

If I claim that the purpose of marriage is not for companionship, what are we to make of Genesis 2:18 which says, “it is not good that the man should be alone?” First, notice that God recognized the need, not Adam. We often create this false story in which Adam sees each animal with a mate, cannot find a mate for himself, and then feels lonely. But where is that found in Scripture? We must also recognize the great difference between being alone and feeling lonely; they are not mutually exclusive. Second, notice that God identified Adam’s need as a lack of help, not loneliness. God responded and called His answer “a help [which is] meet for him.” Third, notice that it says “the man.” It is not speaking of mankind in general, but of Adam specifically. Not all men are designed to get married; God has a purpose for some to remain faithfully unmarried (1 Corinthians 7:32-33). Here, God gave Adam a task and recognized his need for help. His response to Adam’s need was to create a help for “the man,” and she was meet (sufficient) for him. Companionship and procreation were results of their union, not its purpose.

But have you ever stopped to consider: why the marriage? If help was his need, why not just be friends or simple coworkers in the garden? Why must God institute this thing called marriage?

THE ONE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE

Procreation is a wonderful gift from God, but He can fill the earth without marriage. A good marriage ought to provide companionship, but God is a superior companion to man without marriage. A man is commanded to love his wife, but God is the greatest Love beyond any love in marriage. These all are important fruits of a good marriage, but they are not individually the purpose of marriage. So what is the purpose? Ephesians 5:31 says “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

For what cause? For what cause does a man get married?

He tells in the verses before it:

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it… For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.” (Ephesians 5:25,30-31)

Marriage has one purpose, and one purpose only: to picture Christ and the church. And just in case anyone tried to deny this, Paul reiterates it in the next verse: “This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

The church is made up of many believers who are one body (Romans 12:5), and God calls this collective body a bride. God instituted that a man take a woman to be his bride and they become one flesh, thus picturing how Christ takes the church as His bride and she is of His flesh and bone, members of His body. A union of two people of the same gender is not a picture of Christ and His bride at all, and is therefore not God’s definition of marriage. The picture is the purpose.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Everything God designed and created in Scripture paints a picture. Everything. It is a fascinating study to look at all of the minute details that almost would not make sense, except for the fact that it paints a picture of a larger truth.

For example, why would God tell Moses to strike a rock in order to provide life-giving water to the Israelites? It is because the Rock pictured Christ who was smitten for our transgressions, thereby giving life to those who believe (1 Corinthians 10:4).

God later told Moses to speak to a rock for sustenance. Why the change? Because Christ was smitten only once for our transgressions and will now provide sustenance if we simply call out (speak) to Him. But Moses, in his anger, struck that second rock as well. Moses destroyed the picture that God was painting of His Son and it cost Moses his life.

My college professor once illustrated the importance of pictures. He asked a student if she had a picture of her husband. She handed him a picture, he took out a marker, and he made it look as though he were drawing all over the face of that picture. The look on her face said everything: had he continued the charade for long, she would have shown her fury. But why this anger? It is just a picture. Ah, but that picture is the image of the one she loves most.

God also takes these pictures seriously. It is the image of His only begotten Son. That is exactly what marriage is: a picture of Jesus and His Bride. Two men can never picture that. It destroys the picture. And Moses bears witness that God does not take that lightly.

RESPONDING TO GAY MARRIAGE

For the Conservative

Let’s face it: many conservative Christians have done a rotten job of representing Christ to the gay community. Rather than point to God’s beautiful picture with compassion, Christians often attack the people and sling mud. Not surprisingly, many unbelievers in the gay community view Christians as hateful people who lack compassion. Jesus Christ was the most righteous, holy man to walk the planet; no one stood against sin more strongly than the One who gave His life to overcome it, yet harlots and thieves found him to be loving and compassionate. When sinners today see us being hateful and compassionless in our stand against sin, it speaks volumes about how often we poorly emulate Christ.

It is with this in mind that I exhort conservatives to show compassion in your response. If you see the gay community as an enemy to vanquish, then you are not seeing them through the eyes of Christ. Sin and death are the enemies and they are already defeated. Those people you see bear the image of God (Genesis 1:27, 9:6; James 3:9), but have darkened hearts and blinded eyes, as once did you. Showing love and compassion is not the same as accepting sin. I again point to Jesus who stood strongest against sin but was known as a man having compassion on the multitudes.

For the Progressive

Progressive Christians often believe that accepting gay marriage is the most loving thing to do. But if God’s picture is clearly portrayed, on what grounds can a believer reject that picture and still claim to be a Bible believer? Marriage is a picture of Christ and His bride; any sexual activity outside of marriage is called fornication. Fornication is condemned no matter what your gender or gender preference may be (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Passively accepting sin is not doing the sinner any favors, and God warns that their blood may end up on your hands (Ezekiel 3:18).

People love to quote 1 Corinthians 13 as a “love chapter” which extolls the great virtues of true, godly love, yet they seem to overlook verse 6 which says that it “Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.” True love speaks truth, as God is Love and God is Truth. You cannot have one without the other. We must stand firmly upon the sure foundation of God’s Word (2 Timothy 2:19) and speak the truth of God with boldness, for that is the mark of one who has been with Jesus (Acts 4:13).

MY CONCLUSION

If marriage is about love, then what reason have I to deny marriage between two men who love one another? If marriage is about companionship, what reason have I to deny marriage between two men who make great companions? Although a good marriage should possess these qualities, marriage was not instituted for those reasons. God instituted marriage as a picture of Christ and His bride, and it is upon these grounds that a consistent, biblical Christian must conclude that a marriage cannot consist of two men or two women.

Do not be tossed to and fro with the changing tides of our culture. Scripture calls that being childish and deceptive, to which the only proper response is speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:14-24). Current national events may seem discouraging for the Bible believer; truth is fallen in the street and the world is getting worse despite our efforts. But I have some good news: we were never called to prevent sinners from sinning. Rather, we were called to shine a light. It is in the darkest places that the light of truth shines brightest. Lift Christ up and shine your light for the world to see. Recognize the one purpose of marriage. Live out a beautiful picture. Share it with the world. Proclaim it boldly. Do it with compassion.

 

About the Author:

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My name is Tyler Joshua Agan and I grew up in a preacher’s home. I was the typical preacher’s kid who rebelled and ran away, almost completely rejecting what I had been taught. God eventually got my attention and restored me, and I have a new perspective on my ministry as a result. Life as a preacher’s kid is tough business, but the pressures (and many failures) have built me into the man I am today.God allowed me to build a career in Corporate America as a website developer and marketing strategist. After starting two companies and working alongside some of the nation’s largest non-profit organizations, I felt the call to step away from my full-time career and pursue ministry. This transition is a slow one, and I’m still working as needed. I continue to develop websites on the side, focusing primarily on churches, non-profits, and various ministries.I am a fourth generation preacher who seeks to learn servant leadership, impact lives for Christ, and simply walk with God. Apart from work, I currently preach, speak, and write as often as God leads.

You can find more Joshua’s writing where this blog post was originally posted on blog.joshuaagan.com. Also, find him on twitter and facebook and instagram.