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Oh you model?

All attention is not equal. Girls, you might think that you want attention, but you dont. What you want is respect. I’m so tired of seeing these girls lower themselves to the point where they are prostituting their bodies for “likes” on the internet. How did we get here? How did we go from being the gentler, more valuable and prized gender to being the bait… Luring men to hell with our bodies…..?

Read Proverbs 7 if you don’t believe me…

And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.) Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death. Proverbs 7:10-12, 25-27

Posing in a bra and underwear on Instagram doesn’t make you a “model”… it makes you look cheap and easy.  What you’re doing isn’t modeling. Models pose on a professional photo set to sell products for a company they get a check from. They get paid for modeling… they aren’t giving themselves away for free to random lurkers/stalkers/pedophiles. The psychology behind your behavior is simple: You’re suffering from a lack of self-esteem and are looking externally to make yourself feel good about you. But you’re kidding yourself. It’s called self-esteem because it emanates from the self. It comes from a place deep inside where you know you are a daughter of the living God, you know the price that was paid for you to be free from sin and filth- a price far above rubies. An immodestly dressed woman is giving away something that doesn’t belong to her. This principle of ownership means that you and I are not free to dress in any way we please. We’re accountable to God.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10

Let’s be clear… Any picture of a barely clothed girl will get lots of views online. You will attract lots of perverts to tell you how hot you are… Among other things. You showing yours doesn’t make you special. The “likes” and “shares” you get are not because they like you.  They like what you are giving them… they don’t care who you are.

I have brothers. I have friends. I have loved ones that I have to protect. I’ll choose respect.. Respect for myself and respect for those around me. I’ll choose not to show off parts of myself that every other girl has and can show off far too easily. I’ll choose to keep my secrets and not have them be a part of every dirty man’s sinful fantasies. I’m not ok with that.. And neither is God.

Guys, who are you giving away your eyes and mind to? Are you saving your eyes for the most beautiful girl you will ever lay eyes on– your wife? Or are you getting cheap thrills from every pic on the popular page? If you are, you are just as guilty.

“Here are some very important questions that I always ask young men: 1) Are you attracted to her biblical beauty – or are you attracted to her sensuality? Sensuality proceeds from a wicked heart {Mark 7:21-23}. Also, sensuality is a deed of the flesh {Galatians 5:19}. A woman can properly be called beautiful. A woman can properly be called elegant, but a woman who is sensual has an evil heart. I know many, many women who when you look at them, you would think to yourself: what a beautiful, refined, elegant lady. And honestly, as a man of God, that’s all you would think. And there are other women, young men, that do not carry half the physical beauty, that if you are a man of God and you see them walking through the church doors, you put your head down because of the sensuality coming out of their heart. Young men, you RUN from sensuality! Run from it because sensuality is just a public advertisement of the condition of the heart. Run from it! And young women…run from sensuality in men because it’s there, too. If ANYONE dresses or acts in any way so as to promote the frame of their body, it’s SENSUALITY.” – Paul Washer

If I determine to live my life for the glory of God—that will affect why I wear what I wear. It will make me think about how I present myself. Satan wants to strip you, make a fool of you, and merchandise your body, but your heavenly Father wants to clothe you with beauty, strength, dignity and honor that will endure. True beauty is internal and spiritual. We should be honoring God through the way we present ourselves. Our outward appearance is nothing but a reflection of an inward spirit. Is our reflection pure and submissive to Christ? Or is it self-serving and lustfully indulgent?

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 1 John 2:16

Ladies, you have the same body parts every other woman has. If that’s what you’re advertising with, you’re only going to attract a man looking for the cheapest price. Maybe all men aren’t poor, maybe you’ve just marked your prices too low. It’s YOU who tells people what your value is. Stop selling yourself so cheaply. If you really want to be treated like something of worth, get your goods off the clearance rack and place yourself behind the glass where they keep the valuables. Display a heart that will actually keep a man around… not a toy meant for one-time-use only.

If you are after attention there is plenty to be had, but if you want true beauty then you have to look at the big picture. Take a good look at yourself and the pictures you post. What kind of attention are you looking for? What kind of attention are you getting? What are you telling people about yourself? What are you telling people about your God? In 20 years, who will be around to give you your self-esteem if it all comes from Instagram? Choose respect. Choose beautiful.

As for me, I’ll take truly beautiful over “hot” any day, because that way, in 20 years I’ll still be beautiful. What’s your choice?