I have written so many posts about modesty. It is a big burden on my heart to educate girls about the power of modesty. Please take the time to watch this video by Jessica Rey, designer and owner of Rey Swimwear.
When girls think of the word “Modesty,” it is an automatic turn off for most of them. It’s an word that has been associated with “old-fashioned,” “frumpy,” and, let’s be honest, “boring.” So I want to start using a new term.. “discreet.” This term has what is truly meant behind what being “modest” in today’s age means. Discreet means “secretive,” “mysterious,” “classy,” and even “elegant.”
Being discreet is showing the world that you have parts of you that only a select group of people will ever get to see. You don’t have to show the world your body in order to show them your worth. Being discreet is knowing your worth is not in something as fleeting as your body… because, girls, it is gonna fade away. You are going to get old, you are going to gain weight, you are going to have babies, you are going to grow naturally and beautifully into old age. God would not give us a worth that fades away so easily.
Whenever God talks about giving someone worth, He talks about “clothing” them.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. Proverbs 31:25 The Proverbs 31 woman is known by what she is clothed in, and her power and worth lies in her strength and honour.
“Make tunics, sashes and headbands for Aaron’s sons, to give them dignity and honor. After you put these clothes on your brother Aaron and his sons, anoint and ordain them. Consecrate them so they may serve me as priests.” Exodus 28:40-41 God wants these garments to convey the honor and dignity of their position as priests. People would see Aaron and his sons and recognize them by the garments they wore and give them honor and respect because of who they were—they were God’s priests.
God has given us garments of honor as well. “I delight greatly in the Lord; my soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.” Isaiah 61:10
But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof. Romans 13:14 Paul tells us to clothe ourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus is the salvation of God and the only way to wear the salvation God offers is through Jesus.
You see, the Lord has bought us with a price and given us clothing of honor. An immodestly dressed woman is giving away something that does not belong to her. The principle of ownership means that you and I, as daughters of God, are not free to dress in any way we please. We’re accountable to God for what we do with our bodies and who we show our bodies to.
Matthew 5:28 says, “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” That is not just the sin of a man. That is also a sin that we as women commit– the sin of adultery– when we allow men to look at our bodies, and commit adultery with us in their minds.
Okay, so if you don’t know how the male mind works, I will give you a quick lesson. This is true, ladies. Please understand this. A man is sexually “turned on” by the sight of a woman’s body. What it is like for a man to look at an immodestly dressed girl is like when a cute guy that you really really like came and put his arms around your waist. You would like that…. well, it is the same for a guy, but they can take it even further in their minds. God gave them an incredible imagination when it comes to a woman’s body and sex. And if that guy does not have the holy spirit inside of him and if he doesn’t long to do the right thing, he will commit adultery with you in his mind. Period. Now, this ability is not necessarily a evil, bad thing. That is how God created men. He did that so that they would be the pursuers in relationships– so that they would be driven to go out and find a girl and marry her and fulfill those desires within marriage and raise godly families. Sin has just corrupted God’s plan, and the world today has waged war on the minds of these men. You see?
This is why God wants to clothe us with honor– to protect the men around us from committing sin and to ultimately protect us. Godly men want a woman who will not cause him to commit adultery with her in his mind. He wants a woman who is “mysterious” and “sacred” and “discreet.” He wants a woman he can “win” with inside of marriage alone.
God doesn’t want to cover up all our beauty so that we never get married and we sit at home alone dateless and ugly. He has set up this system because He created us and He knows how our minds and bodies work. He has done it to protect our purity and for men to look at us with honor. He has “clothed” us for our own good.
It is the enemy who wants to strip you, make sport of you, and merchandise everything that is sacred. He wants to take away your God-given worth, strength, honor, and mystery and, instead, shame you in front of the world. The video I posted above states that the study at Princeton University claimed that men associate women in bikinis with tool use. Something they USE to get a job done. Yikes. There have also been studies done that have shown that the male brain stores perceived “sexual encounters” in the same way that it stores actual sexual encounters. I guess God is right after all. That is not what God intended for his daughters, and that is not something we should want for ourselves.
So what do I wear to the beach? No, I don’t wear a “bathing costume.” lol There are lots of cute one piece bathing suits that I have found and I pair them with cute shorts. I will not let any man other than my husband see me in my underwear. I may look a whole lot more dressed than the other girls at the beach, but I would rather look cute and covered than have the men around me thinking about me in a sexual way and allowing them to commit adultery with me in their minds.
The point of this post was not to bash girls who wear bikinis. It was to simply inform you of the facts– of God’s purposes and of the enemy’s purposes and of how a man’s mind really works. Now that you know and understand, you are responsible to act on this information. My prayer is that you really think twice about who you are trying to please when you wear that bikini to the beach or post pictures of yourself in it on the internet.
Discreet, ladies. That is so much more attractive to the men we really want to catch. Men who actually want to get married and raise godly homes. Isn’t that what we want for ourselves? Then let’s stop being fooled by the enemy. Let’s take back the power that the world and the devil have taken from us. If we are truly living our lives for the glory of God, then it will determine why I wear what I wear. It will make me think twice before I give something away that is not mine to give. My Savior has clothed in me in salvation, strength, and honor, and I will not cheapen myself to be stripped and made sport of — not even at the beach.
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